Red flags when dating someone
Too many women are misled by the romantic myth that men are "diamonds in the rough" and we are supposed to "help" them become better men, often by sacrificing our own needs.
We are socialized to believe that if we help them, take care of them, give up our own needs for theirs, they will "take care" of us. Of course, men are just as vulnerable- they often marry women they barely know, feeling that they have to be "mature" and "grown up" and then end up miserable because they're stuck with someone they have nothing in common with.
It never fails: I hear people say every day that they didn’t see the warning signs until it was too late.
When you venture out and make connections with new people, you meet all kinds.
Here are ten negative traits that should wave a red flag of danger when you observe them.
I’ve found in my clinical work with singles and couples that there are a few red flags that are more serious – or redder, if you will – than others. There’s no need to expand any further – you’ll know it when you see it, and you have to kick that date to the curb right away.Or they play "rescuer" and take up with women who are little, fragile dolls who need to be 'taken care of' and they say things like "She needs me, she's so fragile. The sad thing is, that the men/women who CAN change, do it on their own. They take time off from relationships, and work on their relationship with themselves.The can demonstrate REAL work and real change, rather than platitudes.” Sometimes you won’t know the answer until you’ve been around a person once or twice.But you can learn a lot about potential date before you ever go out with them.